tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221Wed, 29 Oct 2008 15:19:23 +0000moving throughhttp://mychol.com/mychol@mychol.com (Mychol)Blogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-29774781943546478Wed, 29 Oct 2008 15:19:00 +00002008-10-29T11:19:23.680-04:00http://mychol.com/2008/10/blog-post.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-2738059065082785103Thu, 24 Jul 2008 05:11:00 +00002008-07-24T01:38:38.658-04:00... then *bam!* I have a "bad Matt day" when I miss him with every fibre of my being. When that happens, I try to attend to my emotional guidance system and redirect my thoughts to another place... one more aligned with my ideals of what adult relationships can be (should be?) But it's not an easy thing, to shift your thinking in this way. Sometimes it can take hours to find thoughts that are http://mychol.com/2008/07/most-days-things-are-fine.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-9035491661792926922Sun, 13 Jul 2008 20:36:00 +00002008-07-18T15:38:48.092-04:00So this is the end... Matt and I have finally reconfigured our relationship from "monogamous gay couple" to "friends with (occasional) benefits". He'll be in his own apartment at mid-August, at which point we'll probably see considerably less of each other, as he's found someone else he wants to date, know, be with. I'd be lying if I said this isn't one of the most painful experiences of my http://mychol.com/2008/07/taking-high-road.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-2909874789148718021Wed, 16 Jan 2008 02:54:00 +00002008-01-15T22:03:14.465-05:00He's intelligent, often witty and rather clever. Seems well-read and passionate about social issues. He makes you laugh (often) and supports you in everything you do. His fashion sense seems a bit "out there" but he doesn't take himself too seriously. He gives great head. He loves you totally and without reservation. And he's poor. Not just "a little short this week". POOR. Struggling to make http://mychol.com/2008/01/dating-poverty.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-8959114499057445020Sat, 13 Oct 2007 19:38:00 +00002007-10-27T16:15:04.457-04:00 Turns out my "winter palace" isn't. Looking to move into a reasonably-priced bachelor or junior one bedroom apartment for November 1. "A gift wrapped in obligation isn't a gift... it's a transaction".http://mychol.com/2007/10/moving-again.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-4336683239707896115Sun, 05 Aug 2007 14:27:00 +00002007-08-05T10:38:04.863-04:00 Time's UP! Wrestling with finances, trying to carry the load for recalcitrant boarders and craving change has brought me to this place, where I feel I must uproot, divest myself of accumulations from more than a decade of pack rat behaviour and relocate to more modest digs. Hoping my co-op will co-operate and allow me to exit without the standard 60-day notice period. A month of yard sales http://mychol.com/2007/08/fold-tent-and-saddle-camel-im-new-nomad.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-7803793109400541418Sun, 01 Jul 2007 16:45:00 +00002007-07-01T13:01:02.125-04:00Happy Canada Day 2007! http://mychol.com/2007/07/dismantling-squat-in-my-basement.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-4352012705165357535Sat, 26 May 2007 15:35:00 +00002007-05-26T11:37:09.519-04:00Went to Hanlan's Point with Matt last week... we both had a great time. There's nothing like introducing someone to a new experience for them that's an old experience for you, to open your eyes to stuff you may be taking for granted. We'll go again this week on Monday or Tuesday, weather permitting. (It damn well better!)http://mychol.com/2007/05/beach-beach.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-2188528128380526242Thu, 14 Dec 2006 03:22:00 +00002006-12-13T22:24:00.810-05:00http://mychol.com/2006/12/miniature-earth.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-116438435372163184Fri, 24 Nov 2006 16:03:00 +00002006-11-24T11:05:53.730-05:00In a follow-up to this morning's tragic posting, I'm here to tell you that sometimes emotional pain isn't 'worse'... sometimes it's exactly what we need. The hard casing is starting to crack in important ways that leave me feeling exhausted and more human than I've ever felt before. More news as it happens.http://mychol.com/2006/11/sometimes-worse-isnt-right-word.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-116435330563178832Fri, 24 Nov 2006 07:24:00 +00002006-11-24T02:28:25.640-05:00With all the miles on me, you'd think I'd have some experience with this... but I don't. Disappointment is born of expectation, so I've got to presume the crushing disappointment that's bruising my heart right now is the proceeds of a massive (and apparently unwarranted) expectation. I can barely breathe with the weight of this pressing down on me. Disappointed, confused, and profoundly lonely http://mychol.com/2006/11/does-it-get-worse.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-116355913196311396Wed, 15 Nov 2006 02:50:00 +00002006-11-14T21:54:52.136-05:00 Been running on 'high' for weeks... moving so fast to nowhere in particular. I keep saying 'no expectations' & yet... I DO have expectations... that it will be fabulous, whatever it is... ...and then it isn't. Damn!http://mychol.com/2006/11/unravelling.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-115465285865584822Fri, 04 Aug 2006 00:51:00 +00002006-08-03T21:19:45.156-04:00http://mychol.com/2006/08/ffn4-there-are-bears-in-garden.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-115418993727591021Sat, 29 Jul 2006 16:16:00 +00002006-07-29T12:41:39.146-04:00 People don't believe what you tell them. They rarely believe what you show them. They often believe what their friends tell them. They always believe what they tell themselves. Posted by Seth Godin on July 29, 2006 at http://sethgodin.typepad.com http://mychol.com/2006/07/belief.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-115358798584557342Sat, 22 Jul 2006 17:05:00 +00002006-08-07T01:33:19.116-04:00"Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can praise them, disagree with them, quote them, disbelieve them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They http://mychol.com/2006/07/heres-to-crazy-ones.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-115239663016193343Sat, 08 Jul 2006 22:07:00 +00002006-07-08T18:15:33.920-04:00 ...is the illusion that it has taken place.- George Bernard Shaw. Irish literary Critic, Playwright and Essayist. 1925 Nobel Prize for Literature, 1856-1950 http://mychol.com/2006/07/single-biggest-problem-in.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113857428995597397Sun, 29 Jan 2006 22:20:00 +00002006-05-01T11:32:20.066-04:00Ari's Place Restaurant 229 Roncesvalles Avenue Toronto ON M6R 2L6 (416) 533-0100 Peter An extraordinary treat... excellent fries smothered in crumbled feta and well-dressed in a very nice gravy. Very salty and full of self-indulgent badness. LOVED IT! (BEEFCAKE ALERT! Peter and his brother are delightful! Peter told me his brother's name but his smile blinded me... send me an e-mail and I'llhttp://mychol.com/2006/01/greek-poutine.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113647984609999617Thu, 05 Jan 2006 05:47:00 +00002006-01-05T11:51:41.886-05:00On the way home from Joel's this evening, as I jumped from streetcar to streetcar, maneuvering my way east and south... at one point, I looked down at my chest, with leather vest, and felt the most extraordinary glow of pleasure and appreciation for my life. That "Boyfriend Within" thing seemed, for a moment, present and real and true.http://mychol.com/2006/01/bfw.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113634582066445347Wed, 04 Jan 2006 03:34:00 +00002006-01-03T22:37:00.676-05:00Just when you thought it was safe to dive back into the Internet... everything stays the same. After spending most of the afternoon chatting with someone who appeared genuine, I found myself eating meatloaf at The Griddle... alone. Again. Sometimes you see it coming... and sometimes you don't.http://mychol.com/2006/01/just-when-you-thought-it-was-safe.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113450731383829232Tue, 13 Dec 2005 20:55:00 +00002005-12-13T15:55:13.856-05:00GoGratitude Experimenthttp://mychol.com/2005/12/gogratitude-experiment.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113384421779750730Tue, 06 Dec 2005 04:43:00 +00002005-12-05T23:44:26.913-05:00Stream this page: Magnatune Winnershttp://mychol.com/2005/12/ccmixterorg-magnatune-winners.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113339164699206970Wed, 30 Nov 2005 22:59:00 +00002005-12-03T01:13:44.126-05:00http://mychol.com/2005/11/mancandyca_30.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113206412087438253Tue, 15 Nov 2005 14:15:00 +00002005-11-15T09:15:20.903-05:00Salon.com Technology | Throwing Google at the bookhttp://mychol.com/2005/11/saloncom-technology-throwing-google-at.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113189964330513596Sun, 13 Nov 2005 16:27:00 +00002005-12-06T16:44:45.460-05:00What an intimate disclosure was the opening selection of Reiner Schwarz' first JAZZ.FM91 Friday night presentation. Like the man himself, the programme was at times engaging, challenging, exasperating, tumultous, seductive. A valuable addition to the growing arena of intelligent radio... check it out! Check out Reiner's past playlists here.http://mychol.com/2005/11/intimate-disclosure.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423221.post-113182417295385746Sat, 12 Nov 2005 19:34:00 +00002005-12-03T01:11:36.006-05:00http://mychol.com/2005/11/canadas-premier-jazz-bandit-reiner.htmlmychol@mychol.com (Mychol)0